No Doesn’t Always Mean No

Something that I have really been awakened to lately is the timing of life. I always heard and believed that, “Everything happens when it’s supposed to happen.” It’s one of those things people tell you when they want to help you feel better but don’t know quite what to say, right?

Well, kind of. But it’s also strangely accurate, as simple as it sounds.

Timing really is everything, and sometimes that’s a tough pill to swallow because it rarely makes sense at first. As humans, we try to resist change and/or anything that doesn’t seem 110% “right” to us. We will kick and scream until we get our way, essentially; whether that means fighting for what we believe in or being blind to reality and missing the mark on where we’re supposed to be.

Sometimes the my-way-or-the-highway attitude can get us really far in certain situations, and can be a great quality to possess. But other times, it can mean being totally blind to WHY we should perhaps wait silently until the right opportunity comes along.

Sometimes, what you think is so right for you can turn out to be so wrong, so God will close that door in order to lead you to the correct one. However, when that first door is shut, we tend to shut down and get angry. We take it as a huge negative, or a major setback. We don’t realize that He’s saying, “Hold on just a little longer, I’ve got something even better for you if you’ll just take a chill pill for a hot sec.” And then, in the end, whatever He told us a big fat NO to ends up being a blessing in disguise because of the new door that opens and puts our butt right where we’re meant to be. Funny how that works, right?!

So, whether you’re struggling with people saying no at work, in your personal relationships, in your financial situation, etc… try to see those NO’s in a new light and look for the positive that can come from it! If God’s closing a door, He’s probably getting ready to open a new one, whether it’s what was in YOUR original plan or not. “No” doesn’t always mean NO, it often means “Not right now.”

Not only is timing everything, but so is perspective. Look for the good and the good will find you 🙂

Thanks for reading! Outfit details below!

XO beth

Photos by Elle Lua Photography

Pants: HERE *use code “reasoner” for discount // Shoes: Nike women // Top: similar HERE

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Monday Motivation

Hi guys! Hope your week is off to a lovely start. After having my family in town last week, this week already seems to be dragging and quite boring. I wish I could just keep them here with me, haha! We had so much fun. I’m already anxious for their next visit.

We spent most of the time at the beach, but when we weren’t on the beach we went out exploring some new places – shops, coffee/food places, etc. – and eating yummy food (my best hobby!). We shot these photos in Historic St. Andrews – one of my all time favorite spots in this whole area!

This outfit was perfect for covering up my sunburnt shoulders without making me sweat in the heat! I bought this shirt at Riffraff several years ago, and I’m so happy I have held onto it, because bell sleeves are making the biggest comeback! I will link the outfit details at the bottom of the post (linking similar shirts since this one is old)!

Anyways, let’s talk about getting OUT of your own head and letting positivity in!

One of my BIGGEST struggles this week, to be honest.

I have come a reeeally long way as far as self love and all that goes. Most days, I love myself regardless of what negative thoughts try to pop into my head and ruin my day… But some days, or weeks, just don’t come as easy. Some days, my negativity toward MYSELF saturates everything I do and affects my whole mood. Not cool, but it is what it is. So please know that you are not the only one struggling with this!

My husband said something very profound to me today, although to him it was probably a simple remark. But when I was complaining about something, I said to him, “Ugh, it’s fine. I’m fine.” And he replied with, “Fine, or good?” WOW this resonated so much for some reason. (Sorry babe for telling this 😘 but your wisdom must be shared!)

Maybe it’s just me, but that made me stop and think about how negative I was being for NO reason. I was acting like my world was going to end, when in reality, I am good and LIFE. IS. GOOD. God has given me this life and this purpose, and it is good and it is well. We aren’t put here to be average and “just fine” but to be happy and purpose-driven.

It’s like God is just really pushing for me to get my chin up ASAP because on top of the hubby’s encouragement, I was reading my devotional and it basically said, “You’re gonna get through today, no matter what, so you might as well take the happy route through today, by choosing Me.”

If you’re doubting yourself, whether it be your appearance, your financial situation, your job, whatever – please remember to choose Him, choose HAPPY! Being happy is a choice, and you’re the only one who can make it 🙂

I may only be preaching to myself today… but hey, I hope this helps you lift your chin a little like it did mine. Hope your week is fabulous! Thanks for stopping by

XO beth

Shoes – Target // Shirt (similar) – here // shorts – Forever21 // Purse – MK here // necklace – similar here